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Local Teen Stands Up Against Bullying

By: Amanda Ciavarri
Updated: December 6, 2011
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The death of a Buffalo teen has brought the issue of bullying to the minds of many.

Family members say 14-year-old Jamie Rodemeyer was bullied for years about his sexuality before he committed suicide.

A local Churchville-Chili teen has written a poem called "No One Knew."

It dives into the emotional damage bullying has on its victims.

Kari Vogel, 16, read aloud a poem she wrote about a months ago about bullying:

"The words you would say they would pound against my heart. They would break my positivity. I felt like there was nothing left of me I felt like I was drowning in the lost sea. A sea made of tears and waves of the pain," reads Vogel.

She says that's how bullying makes her feel almost everyday.

"It's been a rough ten weeks. For the beginning of my junior year," said Vogel.

The Churchville-Chili student says what hurts the most is that the bullies often target her family.

"They'll say things about my brother. My brother is disabled. So I remember them saying 'oh yeah he's stupid, he's retarded.'  It's just not good," said Vogel.

And Vogel isn't alone, her friend Roman Crespo says he is often bullied for his sexual orientation.

"People are just relentless with bullying," said Crespo, who is also a junior at Churchville-Chili High School.

Vogel has decided to become part of the solution.
She has written a poem about bullying in hopes in will open peoples eyes.

"I got so fed up with the bullying I put my creative writing to the test. It's really just about trying to get the word out there to try and stop it and that there are victims out there," said Vogel.

Teachers say they do see bullying in the hallways, and the fact that Kari is taking a stand against the issue is amazing.

"I think it's so courageous for Kari to be able to do something like this. And it's not easy by any means for her to be the voice of thousand and thousands of students across the U.S. who deal with this on a daily basis," said Bethany Gill, a health teacher at Churchville-Chili High School.

"Kari is the one person who truly put art into fighting against it in a sense. That is so inspiring and brave of her," said Crespo.

For Vogel, it isn't about the recognition, she says it's about change.

She wants people to take action before it's too late.

"We don't want students to feel so lost and alone they need to take some sort of a drastic measure ," said Kate Rathbun, a school counselor at Churchville-Chili.

For Vogel and Crespo support from teachers, family and friends have helped them through their low points.

"I don't feel so lonely...It's definitely essential. It has to be there. People need to unite to stop bullying, we all need to be there for each other," said Crespo.

Teachers say they often see consequences not only for the victims of bullying, but also for the bully.

"We see higher frequency of those growing up and engaging in other delinquent behaviors. We see a lot of increased depression and anxiety and suicide tendencies in those who are being bullied as well as drastic measures like suicidal tendencies," said Gill.

Vogel says if this poem helps one person who is a victim of bullying understand they aren't alone, or opens someone's eyes to the problem she'll be happy.

To read all of Vogel's poem click the attachment at the bottom of this article.

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No One Knew

Comments

This comment is for Shelly who is clearly ignorant, I can't speak for Kari but I can speak for Roman, not only is school for education but also for building character combined with what parents shoud teach their children. I teach my children to be proud of who they are no matter what close minded people think and if they happen to be assertive maybe that is their defense mechanism against people who would rather they stay quiet and keep their noses forward. Keri and Roman weren't "chosen" by anyone to be spokespeople, they decided to take a stand, maybe that's something you should be teaching your daughter.

Anonymous A. November 23, 2011 at 1:11 pm



I am saying this from my personal experience and my daughter 's . I do know both Roman and Kari . I was just saying this from the experiences that I have had with both of them . They never took the stand that they were bullies , they said that they were bullied for 10 weeks this year . Also why should it take 2 children to take a stand against bullying when there are many teachers who could have taken a stand and tried to help.

Anonymous A. November 23, 2011 at 6:50 am



It shouldn't have to matter if they were the bullies. These two teenagers have gone to Hell and back I'm sure. Bullying is a high issue within our society, so what if they were the bullies Shelly, they are making a bigger difference more than you or anyone else will. It takes strong willed people to open up and let themselves be heard. Yes I have no room to talk, but I would love to see someone else take a stand and do what these two teenagers have done. And Shelly, you don't know both sides, and you most definitely don't know who they are. Some people are dynamic characters and they will always change, to the very day they die. So there's no need for judgement, be thankful someone is making your Childs school a better place. Where they can feel safe, and welcome, and not feel like they are in danger, and feel neglected. Congrats to the Kari and Roman for they are making a difference. More than anyone here that's reading this, and the previous comments.

Anonymous A. November 23, 2011 at 4:01 am



I think that it should be celebrated that a bully can make a turnaround and stand up for people who are bullied. I think thay are the perfect people to go against bullying. They understand it from both sides.

Anonymous A. November 23, 2011 at 3:22 am



Why did it take so long for teachers and counselors to identify that these indiviuals were being bullied and now at this point they're trying to stop it ? kari said she was bullied for 10 weeks , but my daughter knows kari and says that kari has been in counseling for years now for not only being bullied but being the bully herself . Roman has always been assertive in his [censored] orentation , and has been bullied not only this year but past years about his openess about his [censored] orenetation . I think that these individuals are very poor choices because school is not for being assertive of your [censored] orentation , rich or poor , how people learn , it's about getting the education you need to succeed in life . These two at one point have been the bullies , so why are they a fair choice to be the ones going against bullying ?

Anonymous A. November 22, 2011 at 11:17 pm

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